Conundrums

If the man tries to seize the initiative, he may be seen as domineering, egoistic, power-hungry, possessive, selfish, attention-seeking, not understanding and sensitive enough. If the man decides to withdraw and let go, he may be seen as reticent, idle, unenterprising, quietist, a vacillating weakling, and not active and assertive enough.


It feels wrong to love the woman by raising her on a pedestal and worshipping her like a goddess.
It feels not right to love the woman familiarly and contemptuously as a demystified human object.

If you are rational, you do not approve of most of the actions of most men.
If you do not approve of their actions, you are being judgmental .
If you are judgmental, you cannot be rational.

One has to be extroverted if one is to improve by learning from people.
One needs to be introverted to learn by thinking.

If smartness were to be measured in terms of how fast I could solve a mathematical problem or how well I could write an essay, I am smarter than you.
If success were to be measured in terms of how much money you make, how many women you get to be with, and how easy your life is, you will be more successful than me.